Looking For, Searching For, Waiting For Mr. Right...

People always say, don't look for a man, just sit back and let him come to you...well I think I have sat back for so long that I have lost feeling in my a$$. I have always been a young lady who has gone after things I waited, but when it came to the relationship department, I never seem to have had much opportunity to do so...because I have always had a boyfriend (same guy...I might add, thank you very much!) So, now that I'm single (2+ years, but who's counting) I have found myself physically drainned from this whole new world I've entered (or should I day thrown in). Yeah, I've dated, and met some interesting people, yeah I've dated guys that I would normally not fall for, and that was an experience too, but I'm starting to wonder when will the dating madness end, am I that difficult/demanding that I can't seem to just solidly click with someone. Luckly from conversations with other female (all proud memebers of the Research Dept) I am indeed not the only one experiencing this issues.

While speaking to these ladies I have discovered that there are just some guys out there that seriously suffer from some personal issues and will never establish a healthly relationship with ANYONE until these issues are corrected. Recently, I as well as the several memebers of the Research Dept. have been experiencing what I like to call the following:

Game Boy, Minute Man, Rude Boy, and of course The Stan. See definitions of these titles below...

Game Boy (n/adj) : young men or should I say boys whom like to think of themselves as men that are all about (you guessed it!) GAMES! They put on this face or personality of a well put together male, who ultimately end up being a major disappointment.

Minute Man (n/adj) : (this is not what you think...just nasty) a guy who can only provide just A Minute of his time, and one he is no longer interested or it turns out be no be what he thought or bargined for, he is out of the picture and you life in minutes.

Rude Boy (n/adj/v) : this is your bad boy, you know the one that is a little rough around the edges. You gotta watch what you say and do around him because anything can be taken the wrong way. *Has not home training/can't take him no damn where!

The Stan:(n/adj) : He's your coat tail rider, your Networker, only thing is he is using your network and not his own. New generation Scrub. Can also be associated with the term stalker in some cases.

Now that we have properly defined this type of men, ladies take this as a warning and if you at any point find yourself in the presence of any of these kind of men/boys...politely excuse yourself and go wash your hands....lol naw, RUN LIKE HELL GIRL! SERIOUSLY!

What Is Your Deal? I Like You But...: 7 Things I Can't Stand A Guy To Do

Just when I thought I was DONE, it just pulls me back in. The Love/Datingship crap is really working my nerves. I mean I'm not saying I'm in love or anything, but I think I'm totally crushing these days. (AHHH MESS!) But whateva, a lil crush here or there is healthy...Right?

Well, with happiness comes annoyance...Ladies, I'm sure you all have experienced this before; you have a great guy, but he does something(s) that you just can't stand. You know, somethings you put up with, but somethings you just can't... NO way, NO how, NO DEAL! A couple of days ago, a few of my friends and I were talking about this and I have come up with a list of some things we just couldn't take that our guys/crushes did and because of this we had to say

(Hell Naw! lol j/k) BYE, BYE, BYE, PEACE OUT, HOLLA, CHEERIO!

WARNING: These are not all "my" issues or gripes, they are a collections of issues collected and selected by a well trained Research Department...me and my friends!

7. Wear Pants That Are Too D@mn SHORT

First of all...WHY? I mean its not cute to wear them fallin off your behind, but do you really have to be in the flood year round. How about a pair that just FIT... you! Plain and simple.

(Sera & Three, shut up...they were horrible, and y'all laughed about it too!...inside joke)

6. Talk Too D@mn Much

There is nothing worst than a motor mouth, i mean can you stop for a second to breathe. This is a sign ladies that he is the type that just wants to hear himself talk. Can't do it...Check PLEASE!

5. Crave Attention ~aka~ "The ATTENTION WHORE"

OMG! They are the worst, they live to be seen and to have their egos stroked by any means necessary. I think they should be blind folded and stoned...and maybe even shot! (okay, maybe that was a tad bit too much, but you get my point!)

4. Have Horrible Table Manners/Etiquette
Its amazing how some men conduct themselves at a dinner table. This is a very popular pet peeve that most women have with their guys.

(according to "The" Research Dept...lol...straight face, this is very serious!)

3. Crotch Adjust

Okay, first of all...EWW! This has to be hands down one of the most GROSSES things a guy can do. And what kills me is, guys try to do it real quick like we (ladies) are not gonna see it. Go to the restroom...work that out before you leave the house, car, wherever before you are standing in front of me. Just NASTY!

2. Negative Nathans

Does every word that comes out your mouth have to be depressing or negative. I just don't understand why some people can never have ONE nice thing come out of their mouths. These type of guys are soooooooooooooooooooooo DRAINING.

(maybe my next article will about how to ditch them...hmmm...ladies get the red wine!)

1. DoNOT Understand The Word NO (or in some cases HELL NO)

There's nothing wrong with being persistent, and in certain situations that can be very attractive, BUT, when you take persistence to a WHOLE nother level and it becomes STALKING, I think somewhere we must draw the line.

For some strange reason, I feel like there will be a PART 2 to this...b/c I know I left A LOT of stuff out. 'The" Research Department and a few bottles of wine will have to get back on this.

Why Am I Single: Top 6 Reason I CHOOSE To Roll Solo-Dolo

I often get asked by people, mostly men...Why are you single...then followed by, Okay, Whats wrong with you? Now, ain't that some BULL! Why does it have to be something wrong with me because I'm single. I think these days a lot of women and men for the most part are single because it means a drama free life, and the ability to do as you please....Do as you please? SKERRRRRRRRRRR (*flooring the brakes*)...You grown, shouldn't you be able to do as you please whether you are in a relationship or not?! Let me stop that's a whole nother post. Any who, I'm about to give you the run down of why I choose to be single...LETS GO!!!

6. No One Has Caught My Eye/Heart

I have dated, and its cool, but the little flame I have managed to develop for the guy(s) somehow manages to put itself out. You know in the beginning of any relationship or what I like to call it "DATINGSHIP" things are always grand, they pull out all the stops...flowers, nice dinners, low key chill spots, etc. Then when they get "COMFORTABLE" all that stuff stops "EXPEDITIOUSLY" (shouts out to Mr Clark: Lean On Me! lol) The wining and dining is no more. So UNTIL I find someone whom can be straight up from the jump, and not just do these things to impress me or can maintain these GRAND things that is done in his introduction of himself to me, ANDDDD is/has become my TRUE/BEST friend, but if not, then I will FOREVER be a "SINGLE LADY" (Now, Put Ya Hands UP!)

5. You Get A Chance To Meet A Lot Of New People (Guys)

Though recently, I've become more comfortable with dating, I have found it to be fun. It has allowed me to be more open with others as well as myself. In the beginning I was very selective of whom I allowed my time (and don't get me wrong, I still am, but I have lighten up a tad bit), and now I tend to give guys whom I wouldn't normally give a chance in HELL an opportunity to visit Mirror~Mirror's World. lol I deserve an award for that b/c I've given away far to many free admission tickets to some undeserving jerks, but, hey...if I didn't I would never know what I like and don't like. So, being single DEFINITELY gives you an opportunity to explore what you like and don't like, what you can take, and can not take, and most importantly WHAT THE HELL YOU ARE LOOKING FOR in that special someone! And, my list ain't no JOKE! (i mean its not a list of impossible standards, but I know my worth and each day continuing to learning more about my worth, so whomever he you are, you are gonna have to come "wit" it!) *snaps fingers*

4. Stress~FREE+ Drama~FREE+ Mood swing~FREE = "BEAUTIFUL BLISS" (shouts out Wale)
www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcmpJX_FSFw I like this song....take a listen!

Being single means I can chill and not have to worry about dealing with some foolishness. Its crazy how us single people can associate a relationship with drama (RELATIONSHIP=DRAMA)...I know I just ruffled a few feathers with that one, but its the truth, but b4 you exit my page please read on...BABY, LET ME EXPLAIN...LOL
There are a lot of bitter people out there in the Datingship World, and it primarily due to soar ending relationships, therefore, they associate being in a relationship very stressful. But, I am one to say that this is not necessarily the proper way to look at things, GRANTED, if you are not in a relationship or if you are in an HEALTHY relationship, your stress level is way lower than being in a crappy one. Duhhhh, we all know that right. But, lets take it to another level, when your'e single you don't have to worry about anyone elses feelings, or am I being rude, or all that other crap that you deal with in a relationship... look at it as an OPPORTUNITY for once in your life to live and be selfish...with no regrets.

3. NO Obligations

You ain't my man, I ain't obligated to do, attend, or say NOTHING! lol Right now, that's my attitude! (ugh, I can't believe I just quoted Trina...ahhh mess!)
Why tie yourself up or into something that you know has a dead end. I like to think of myself as a "realist", one whom looks at things at face value, so with that being said, I don't look unless ima buy, I don't obligate myself to nothing I know I'm not gonna invest the proper time in. (okay, I'm getting off subject...) When your single you are not responsible for the normal duties of a girlfriend or boyfriend. Examples: attending work events, listening to all the nagging about how their neighbors disrespect them, etc. (reference back to #4)

2. Not Up For The Games

Far too many games are being played in this world call Love, and frankly, I ain't the one for them. I have taken into consideration that there is a possible chance that its just that guys my age are not mature enough to handle a real relationship and I should try older men. DONE THAT, same results, make it so bad they are worst, b/c they are just getting out of a long term relationship is only looking for a good time. (sorry, i ain't gonna be able to do it bruh...NEXT!) The games are what frustrates me the most, I mean it can single handily turn you off completely when it comes to dating. Thankfully, I am in recovery from my overdose of games, and I'm trying to think optimistic about things. (We Shall See!)

1. I Don't Think I'm Honestly Ready To Be In A Relationship

The worst thing you can do is to give in and do something you don't want to do or you know is wrong. I think we have all fallen victim to this, I know I have, and the outcome is FUDGED UP! As I've spent these last 2 years and some months single I have really done some self evaluations trying to determine if I'm ready. I have gone through so much in my love life, that I can admit had altered the way I think of love. So, until I can whole heartily say I can be fair and selfless i refuse to get involved in a relationship where I would only end up hurting the other party or vice versa, they would end up hurting me. You have to be ready to be in a relationship and ready to accept all that comes with it, and right now I know I'm not, so I choose to be true to myself and learn me, before I can allow someone else too. REAL TALK!


***So, Ladies and Gentlemen don't let anyone make you think something is wrong with you b/c you choose to remain single. Now, these are my reason...and not everyone will agree with them, and that's cool, but like I said they are MINE, and this is how I choose to live my life. You have to determine how you want to live you life not anyone else, and when you do your life will be so much more happier, and who knows, there might be some room for a relationship down the road, but let that decision be on you, not b/c of the thoughts of others. You don't need anyone to complete you, you should already be complete as a person before you enter a relationship, that other person should merely be an ADDITION to your happiness. Yo, I could go on and on, but ima stop...Until we blog again! Peace!

~MiRRoR~MiRRoR~

10 Most ANNOYING Songs Ever

Music makes the world go round (according to Westside Connections, Gangstas do but anywho...) and without it personally I don't know what I would do. Its been there for me through bad breakups (shouts out to Kanye West's 808 Heartbreak), through good time and etc. But lets be honest there are a few songs that we all could have done WITHOUT! So let the countdown begin... *this is in no particular order....they are ALL annoying!*

10. Gucci Mane: Ima Dog

I mean REALLY Gucci Mane, REALLY...was it even neccessary to even make this song!

9. Rihanna: Umberalla

The homemade echos just says it all, I mean she has made it her trademark and duty to repeat some crazy a$$ sound in everyone of her d#mn songs.

(But, Rude Boy is on point! I'm diggin that one!)

http://justjared.buzznet.com/2010/02/.../rihanna-rude-boy-video-premiere/ENJOY!!!

*Rihanna, Ima need my check for all these plugs I've been giving you!*

8. Nelly: Hot In Herre

For some reason this song annoys the crap out of me! Recently, I visited a bowling alley for a lil fun with a friend, and this song came on along with a bunch of other "Rump Shaking" songs, and not only did it get on my nerves it threw my game off...WTF was that all about!

7. Jay Sean: Baby Are You Down

Who is this kid? Enough said!

6. Pleasure P: Boyfriend #2/Under

This fool gets two songs on the list...just because I find him annoying PERIOD! I consider him our generation Keith Sweat, and the whining does nothing for me, but make me want some cheese! (lol...that was a joke...wine a cheese...okay nevermind!)

5. FloRida: Low (Apple Bottom Jeans)

I promise if I hear that song ONE MO F*(^$%@# TIME *in my Pinky from Next Friday voice* Ima go LOCO homes! For some reason this is like "THE" White Girl song of the existence of earth. It don't matter where you at, if that song come on, OH! the white girls gone dance...and dance HARD! LOL

4. Trey Songz: Invented S%x

Now, I know ima make a lot of people made at me for this one, but I can't stand this song. For one its STUPID, AND secondly, its ANNOYING! Seriously, his voice is whack and it sounds like he has a vibator stuck in his throat. But, he is cute. (That was for you Sera!) lol

3. Celine Dion: My Heart Will Go On

WHACK! This song got way to much hype and play...Im not much a ballet fan so maybe thats why this song annoyed the daylights out of me! lol

2. Lady Gaga: Poker Face

Now, I love Lady Gaga like everyone else but I could have done without Poker Face. This song just had my nerves. Ugh!

1. Beyonce: Put A Ring On It

Everyone whom is near and dear to me knows that I ABSOULUTELY LOVE Beyonce (hell, at times I think I am her!) but this song is very d*mn annoying. I'm over it and you should be too. *The Video/Dance was GREAT!*

*Bonus* Soulja Boy: Yah, Yah, Yah!

They had to be smoking some SERIOUS herb when they created this dumba$$ song. That is all!

Well, that concludes my list, but I know I left some out, so feel free to list yours in the comment box...this should be very interesting!

~MiRrOr MiRrOr~

Light-Skin ~VS~ Dark-Skin...When Will It End?

You know as a people, I thought we were sooooo over this, but as I've gotten into the dating world, Im noticing that this issue is a lot bigger than I thought they were. What I mean by this is, many African Americans males and females, are becoming more vocal than ever on what complexion preference they have. I think the straw that broke the camels back for me on this issue was seeing the video blog and hearing all the talk on Wale's "Pretty Girl" music video, expressing the issue that he ONLY had light skinned i.e. very fair complexed, Purto Rician, and bi-racial(black and white), and white women in his video,therefore, portraying that you have to be lightskinnd to be considered pretty.

Surely, after viewing the blogs and discussing this among friends I was just dying to see this music video, I had to see with my own eyes what all the hype was about. So, one Sunday after church, I was channel surfing and low and behold just coming on was Wale's "NEW" music video "Pretty Girls"... www.prefixmag.com/media/wale/pretty-girls-video/37293/
As soon as it came on what do I see (already bias, from all the hype) a half naked very lightskinned girl laying on the floor....only to be followed by more lightskinned women, BUT WAIT, WAIT, WAIT...I all of a sudden seen a splash of color, it was a brown skinned young lady on the screen, she actually got a lil burn time in the video, but real talk, it was MAJORITY lightskinned women. So once the video went off, I sat and thought about what I just saw, and as usual it just roll off my back, b/c its nothing new to see a music video with only lightskinned women in it...its just the way it is..ESPECIALLY in rap videos...hell they even have verses talking about how a "REDBONE" (slang for a lightskinned woman) is the best thing popping. Its very sad that our men have idolized such an idea.

But back to Mr. Wale...a friend of mine just recently gave me a copy (which took him like forever to do...but I'm not gonna take it there!) of Wale's CD called "Attention Deficit" which in my option is one of the dopest album I've heard in a very longtime....very long time! Well, the day I got it, I listen to it start through, and even went back and replayed songs that i was really digging. Well, I ran across a song called "Shades" and being the observant person I am, i pay close attention to detail and in this case lyrics; www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfMNJPwP_nI
and the songs comes on and Wale is speaking about his childhood and how he never felt like he fit in because of the color of his, because he was darkskinned and was the son of immagrants (he is Nigerian), then he even goes deeper saying how he use to put lightskinned people on pedestal, thinking they were more classy,that they had life easier,and his anger towards them (I hate to say "them"...saying it to prove a point not to divide), and how darker women never make it on the tube. SKKKKEEEEEEEEEEEERRRRRTTTTTTT....*coming to a complete stop*...wait just one dang on minute...well, if you feel or felt (b/c he says he doesn't have those insecurities anymore) that way do you continue to participate in the stereotype of what is consider a beauty and representation of a black women in the entertainment world. Now, with such a strong statement as that, by no means am I trying to come down on Wale, b/c obviously he didn't think it was a big deal about the selection of women he had in his new video, which on some levels is understandable, but my point is it would be nice if he as an artist step in and say I would like to have all representation of of women PERIOD in my video titled "Pretty Girls". IJS! And I'm done with talking about Wale....

Back to the subject at hand...this lightskin and darkskin crap has gotten out of hand, it sadden me that we as a people have gone BACK to ways that were created to cause division between us. The only reason some people embrace their lighter skin back in the day was to pass as white to escape slavery, now we have adopted the ignorant "Brown Paper Bag" test to determine where we stand in society. This is sick, disturbing, and very ignorant. Granted, everyone is entitled to their preference, but it becomes an issue when you attach an stereotype to a complexion, that's when your preference and opinion has gone too far. Its 2010 and still such ignorance exist; I could go on and on about this subject, but at the end it all boils down to this very last sentence... learn to love one another for our hearts not our outside appearances, never allow ignorant stereotypes make you miss out on an amazing person. We were all created to be different and to learn from one another, race, and complexion should never be a reason to avoid someone.


I am dying to know how you feel on this subject...please feel free to comment!

Top 7 Best Movie Moments...EVER!!!

Films, Movies, Flicks...whatever you wanna call em, all make us laugh, cry, and even fall asleep. Being the GREAT person that I am, I figure this would make a fun, yet humorous read, so I decided to come up with (Please See Title) the Top 7 Best Movie Moments...EVER (in no particular order) . So without further adue...OH LETS DOOOOOOOO IT...lol (I gotta do better!)


7. The Color Purple

"Until you do right by me, everything you think about is gonna crumble!"

Woooooooooo! Its something about the way she say that, that gives me CHILLS...AND besides the fact that she is holding a knife up to Mr.'s throat! (Which I ain't mad at...that Mr. was a Low Down Ole Musty DOG!) lol 3 Claps for Celie in this scene..clap, clap, clap!

6. Coming To America

"Give it up for my band, Sexual Chocolate..." *foot stomp* "Sexual Chocolate!"

*drop mic exit stage left*

Til this day I can not watch this scene without bursting out into an uncontrollable laugh! Eddie Murphy know he did his thang with this one. Off subject: WTH is a Miss Black Awareness Pageant? lol (look at the podium flyer says Black Week! lol)

5. Harlem Nights

"Are you saying I'm stealing?" (a few colorful words are missing...its was a bit to much for me to post...rent the movie! lol) "Me and you got to step out back."

The FAMOUS pinkytoe shoot out fight. This scene is one of many funny scenes in this movie. Quick tried to tell Vera to back off, but like a woman she kept on mouthing off. But, I must say Vera had that REACH on her, she wore Quick behind slap out. lol (oh, and lets not forget about the shot out with Eddie Murphy and Arsenio Hall, and the lil man that kept shooting that lil pistol after they finished shooting machine guns...rotflmao!)

4. Step Brothers

www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKcZJuX_69E

I couldn't even quote this one, just watch it and prepare to wet your pants! "This is how we do it! Shah nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah!" lol

3. The Wedding Singer"That's cause I'm the best guitar player in the wooorld! Yeaah! Self taught, no lessons. Thank you very much, Pop! ..."

LOL! This was one of many funny moment of this movie. There's nothing more funnier than to watch a drunk person have a COMPLETE come apart in public...WHILE giving a toast to the couple. Not only did he tell all of his brother's (the groom) secrets of infidelity, but he aired all his family's dirty laundry out...PURE COMEDY! If you haven't seen this movie...where have you been in LIFE?

2. The Hangover

"Who's baby is this? I don't know, check the collar or something!"

I recently, finally rented this movie (per Red Box), and was extremely satisfied with my rental. This movie was very funny. One of my favorites part of the movie was when they found the baby and name the poor child Carlos. And I was just rolling when they stole the police car and had Carlos in the backseat with a seat belt on with no car seat...too funny!

1. Mike Epps Funny Bidness

Just watch it! I laughed so hard I got sick!

http://comedians.jokes.com/mike-epps/videos/mike-epps---i-love-detroit

http://comedians.jokes.com/mike-epps/videos/mike-epps---do-you-know-the-truth-

http://comedians.jokes.com/mike-epps/videos/mike-epps---married-men

http://comedians.jokes.com/mike-epps/videos/mike-epps---smells-funny-in-here

http://comedians.jokes.com/mike-epps/videos/mike-epps---obama-s-walk

As usual, I know I left some out GREAT ones out....please feel free to comment and add your favs.

Love, Peace, AND Hairgrease...(Olive Oil)

8 Signs You Need To "LET IT GO" Mommie...

As young women...well as women period we tend to hold on to a relationship til the handle completely falls off, and when it does we searching the Wal-Mart aisles to find the very best super glue to repair it. Personally, I'm tired of the smell of super glue so I have constructed a list of signs that should serve as RED FLAGS that lets you know EXACTLY when...you need to LET IT GO, Mommie! Simply Put!

8. He Doesn't Come Around As Often As He Use Too, or As He Should...

Now this is the most common thing that most women seem to complain about when they begin to think they're relationship is on the rocks, yet they ignore it and make up excuses of why they havent seen Tyrone since Tuesday and its Friday and you had a dinner date on Thursday. Nine times out of ten Tyrone is gettin a lil Keshia for dinner. Move on...Case Closed!

7. Quick/Rushed Phone Conversations ALL THE TIME...

I don't know a women in the world whom likes to be rushed or brushed off in mid sentence over the phone. When men are doing something they have no business doing, they tend to get all nervous and then confusion kicks in, followed by the urge to remove themselves from the situation. ETC When they doing something wrong; cheating, lying, hiding something, etc. they don't want to talk much to the person they are doing these things too. Forget about it and forget him.

6. You Stop Hearing From Him Like You Use To...

So your phone is not ringing like it use too. You know I find it so funny how much effort is put into pursuing us, but once they got us they feels no need to do those things anymore. This is something I don't think I will ever understand. Anywho, So he's not calling as much as he use too, or not even calling at all. Don't waste you time trying to figure it out, go have fun on your own or even with someone else. You shouldn't put you life on hold waiting on someone to get their stuff together. Reference #8.

5. He Acting Kind Of Shady Around The Holiday's...

This is such a wanna be player's behavior. So Valentine's Day, Christmas, etc is just around the corner and all of a sudden oh boy gets ghost or pick a ridicolous fight with you for no apparent reason, only to result in not getting you a gift or seeing you on that special day. I have 3 words for you ladies: DROP THAT LOSER. Simply put...

4. Each Time You Guys Go Out He Wants To Go DUTCH...

Now, I'm a sista that doesn't mind picking up the check every now an then, but on the following terms:

• We're celebrating one of his accomplishments.



• I want to go out and he's low of funds.



• He deserves it.



• Because I want too.

Other than that, Ima need you to handle that bill. *And I typically handle the tips and even a drink!* For some reason guys these days have gotten way to comfortable with this idea of an independent woman being able to handle her own and has adopted to the idea that she should have no problem handling a date or two either. Granted us independent women can pay for our dinner, your dinner (the guy), and 3 more tables in the resturant, but is nothing like having a man take care of the bill. It just does something for me to have a guy treat me. It all boils down to letting a man be a man, and if your guy objects to this than his manhood should be at question. You don't need this in you life. EXIT Stage Left...

3. Your Sick, And He Doesn't Offer To Visit or Pick Up Something To Make It ALL Better...

DEAD GIVE AWAY to run for the hills child! Why would you want anyone who has no concern for you at one of your most vonariable moments. Anyone with a heart would check on someone who was sick even if they couldn't buy anything...a simple check up call goes along way. I remember one time I was sick as a dog, and I was dating this guy (nothing serious...thank god) and not one time did he offer to bring me anything, he would call but it was never to see how I was feeling it would be on some real self-centered crap, anyway, that was a true eye openner for me. And what was so crazy was a had another guy (who was JUST my friend) whom called me every other hour to see how I was feeling and even offered to buy me more meds if I needed them. Now that's what I call a TRUE Stand Up Guy...Anywho, ladies you want someone who will take care of you and have genuine concern about you and your health. If you don't have that...DUECES!

2. You Hearing To Much About Your Man On The Streets...

Ladies, we all know the STREETS be talking! Im not saying believe everything or anything you hear about your man from someone else, but I am saying DON'T BE NO FOOL. So, you've notice a sudden change in your man...he's been acting kind of shady, you know, aint calling you baby...(lol, sorry had to do it...shouts out to Destiny's Child...the "Original" group!) He's displaying actions of 8-3 of my list. This calls for some investigating, so what do you do you put your ears to the streets. And, NO NO NO (lol...no pun intended...D.C.) this doesn't mean you go around asking Rick and dem stuff about where your man's been, silence is a oh so golden and when he's doing wrong God has a wonderful way of revealing things to you. I am a testimony to this. So keep your mouth close and your ears open, pray that about the things that you are being told, and just like a puzzle if you relax and take your time you will see the picture for what it is meant to be. And you can drop his tired behind! lol

1. Straight DISRESPECT, Nothing More Nothing Less:

This bugs the CRAP out of me, to witness a female being disrepected in any form or fashion. But sadly this happens daily in our society and not only just in relationships. My mom always told me never allow anyone to disrespect you, and most importantly don't EVER let a man disrespect because if you do, you will have H E DOULBLE HOCKEY STICKS ON YOU HANDS. Now I could go on all day about different ways we allow men to disrespect us, but if i did this blog entry would be as long as Beyonce's Lace Front Wigs on a European Tour...So ima just put it like this if you allow someone to disrespect you than chances are you have no respect for yourself, why allow someone to run over you when you can simply dismiss them from your life completely. On to the next one...(I hate that phrase, but in this case it works!)

Certainly, I've left some signs off my list; so please by all means feel free to add your own in my comment box...I would love to hear hear yours! ;-)

~Love, Peace, and Hairgrease (Motions Moisturizer)

Run Sista Run: 6 Type Of Guys You Should Run For Dear Life If You Encounter

Once again this blog is called Per The Blog, and what I do from time to time is respond to other peoples blogs using my own opinions based on things I've been through and what my friends and I have discussed. While blog surfing I ran across a blog listing the type of women you should avoid, well you know I likes to hold it down for the ladies and decided to ruffle some feathers with this one...enjoy!

6. Mr. I Got Plenty Money (sure you do, but its to bad everything penny you own is in your hand in that rubber band you just pulled out to show off.)

This drives me crazy, for some strange reason guys and its not just younger guys, like to pull out wads of money to show off. Ladies have you ever been on a dinner date and when it was time to pay for the meal your date pulls out a grip of money in front of you (trying to show off, and it is sooooo obvious!) to pay for the meal. I never understood the purpose of that, whatever happen to a debit card, put that money in the bank, and if you like to have cash on you that's fine, but do you really need your whole pay check in your pocket? I mean really, come on!

5. Mr. I Just Want to Chill and Enjoy Life (but when will that involve you growing up?)

Ladies if you are looking for a serious relationship, honey this is not the guy for you! This is the type of guy who wants to live in the moment, and doesn't want to commit to a certain type of cereal let alone you. He's the type that ones Tina on Tuesday, Wykeshia on Wednesday, Teresa on Thursday and so on, he has no objective to be with one person. Chill=be with you when I want to be with you. Enjoy Life= if you give "it" to me, ima take and ENJOY IT! lol

4. Mr. Mama's Boy (i ain't ya mama...and will never be)

I know, some of you are like DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH, I know to avoid a mama's boy, but 9 times out of 10 you the one who dating or in a relationship with one. Don't feel bad, it happens to the best of us. This is the type of dude who call to get his mommy's opinion for everything. Or, he has to have his cornbread just like mama make cause nobody make cornbread like mama...before you know it you will find yourself smoking a pack of squares a day. You can't compete with mama!

3. Mr. GQ x 10 to the 12th Power + 10k = (DISASTER)

Nothings wrong with a well dressed fellow, I must admit that's the first thing I notice but, I have to draw the line when the dude shop more than me. (and I ain't no amateur when it come to shopping!) First of all there is nothing worst than a guy who stay in the mirror, takes more time to get ready, and thinks he is cuter than the girl he is dating. Your guy should not be in competition with you. If so, I suggest you test his sugar, b/c he might be a gay-a-betic!

2. Mr. Can I Come Over Your House, Even Though I Just Met You Last Night (enough said)

First of all, never allow a guy over to your house that you just met, if he ask for a date, meet him at the location you guys decide to go. If a guy expresses extreme desire to come to your house as soon as you meet, take this as a warning sign. He has a motive and it ain't to watch tv on your outdated 19 inch tv either. Your home is where you lay your head down at night, its the most personal, most private places you can bring someone, it's an expression of you and your life, why waste it on someone who you're not too sure will even be around next week. Keep 'em out your house!

1. Mr. Pressure (right now, right away, quick fast and in a hurry: Instant Love)

Theses type of guys are the worse kind, you can't even get to know each other because he is to busy trying to make you his wife before you even agreed to be his girlfriend. Knowing what you want is cool, but you can't pressure a person to want what you want, when you want it. Some women think that this would be there ideal guy, b/c he is wanting to put a ring on it fast, but ladies if this occurs you gotta snap out of paradise and think to yourself, okay whats the deal...ain't no woman that good (to have a man wanting her down the aisle in 1 month...either he want a greencard, he trying to get on before tax time so he can claim some of your kids as dependents, or he need somewhere to stay. (isn't that crazy, a man will go as far as to marry a women to have somewhere to stay..smh) Anywho, if you find yourself being pressured in a relationship, try to discuss it with him or get out!

Reply To My Favorite Guys From One Of My Favorite Blogs (Very Smart Brothas): Hands In The Concrete: 6 Surefire Ways To Impress A WoMan!

I'm pretty much a blog fanatic theses days and I absolutely love the blog site Very Smart Brothas (they actually are pretty smart...i know SHOCKER!); while visiting the site I ran across a post entitled: Hands In The Concrete: 6 Surefire Ways To Impress A Man, so I felt it was only right, that I create a reply to this post this time giving 6 Surefire Ways To Impress A Woman! Fellas take notes!

1. Compliment her on any changes she's done to herself or hows she looking that day. We love and live for this, 9 times out of 10 we make these changes for you and to get your attention anyway.

Nothing is like a nice compliment every now and then, it goes far...and who knows maybe it can get you further too...if you know what I mean! lol Food for thought!

2. Listen to the latest scoop we have to spill and most importantly...Give us your opinion! And I'm not talking about "man that's messed up, don't worry about it, i told you to stay away from her she's trouble!" None of that guys, tell us what you would actually do if you were in that situation. Now I know, by now you're think I'm trying to turn you into a SIMP/PUNK/FLAKE, but that not the case, sometimes we need to vent to you and hearing your point of view makes a difference in whether we're gonna slap that trick or walk away...naw really it just makes us feel good to know that you are actually listening to us and have formed an opinion on the subject.

3. Buy us something that you notice or heard us say we need. This is a sure way to still the deal, for one it shows us that you pay attention to our wants and needs, and second it shows that you pay attention to our wants and needs...no, it shows that you want us to have what we desire, and you don't want us to do without something that would be instrumental in our lives. If you do this, trust you're a sure keeper!

4. Open the freakin doors, pull out the chair, and walk us to our car, door, or where ever we going alone. These are all cliché, but if you do these things, you in there. No woman wants to do these things for herself or by herself if you are there and are physically able to do them. By doing these things, it shows us that your are willing to take care and protect us. It shows us that you give a da*mn! (Yet, so many don't and wonder why we never give them any play...)

5. Call (or text...we are in a smart phone generation) to say I'm just thinking about you...SIMPLY PUT! This is the CHEAPEST, most REWARDING way to win us over. There's nothing like a sweet phone call or message from a guys saying you were on his mind, and that you were on his mind so much that he had to call or text you to tell you so! (enuff said!)

6. Dress to IMPRESS!!! Yes it does matter what you look like on the outside, and let me tell you str8 up and right now, there is absolutely nothing worst than a guy with the following: dirty/busted shoes, wrinkled clothes, stained clothes, or clothes that are too da*mn big for you...and in some cases clothes that are too da*mn small (you know the Smeedium aka young shirts and the skinny jeans so tight they should be outlawed). Fellas for some reason you guys have lost interest in caring about your appearance, and dressing in your age bracket. Yes, I said it, dress your da*mn age...to many times have i seen an older gentleman (pushing 40) rocking LRG and Roca Wear, baby let it go, you shouldn't even know what LRG is because when it came out you were probably 30+; somebody really should have found this brotha a Brooks Brothers button down, i mean really. WOW...I've really gotten off subject. Okay Nah...(that was for you XO) TO THE POINT...Women love men who can dress to the nines, that shows us that you care about your appearance and how you are being per trade by us. So next time fellas you're in department store and you're reaching for that BAPE (who wears that anymore anyway) do us women a favor and walk your azz over to the Polo section and take a chance at life! ;-)

Love, Peace, and Hairgrease (Luster Pink Oil Moisturizer)

~MiRrOr MiRrOr~

I'm always open for more thoughts and comments, if I forgot anything please let me know! My Comment box is dying for attention! Oh yeah, shouts out to the very entertaining and tell it like it is bloggers at VERY SMART BROTHAS, check them out: http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/

The Wendy Williams Show: Low Budget, But I Kind of Like It!!!

How You Dooooooing! lol I thought that would be a great start to this article/blog! The Wendy Williams Show has been on every da*mn channel for the last couples of weeks, and I must say...at first I thought it was daytime talkshow meets loud mouth dragqueen...but shockingly, and I mean SHOCKINGLY, I find myself laughing and commenting back at the TV while watching it. Could this be, am I a fan of this joke of a talkshow?!?! To my surprise I think I am, granted I don't set my alarm clock to watch it every night, or get off the phone in mid-convo with my bestfriend or mom to watch it (like I do for Tiny and Toya...great show!) but, the show is an attention grabber.
The only issue I have, and its really not an issue, but is it me or does it seem like the question and answer segment is staged...i mean, is america that stupid with some of the question they have? The other night I was watching and this girl asked Wendy how could she get her parents to stop treating her like a child and let her live her life as adult(as far as coming home late)...well, Wendy got straight to the point: Do you still live with your parents? and the girl said yes!(I would have lied...how embarrassing on national tv) Duhhhhhhh, ITS NOT ROCKET SCIENCE...your parents will continue to monitor your going and comings as long as you're in their home...and it didn't help that the girl looked every bit of 35 year old! That was only one example of what type of garbage you will hear. But all in all Wendy's guest are pretty up to date (I mean, no F-listers in my opinion.) And I do have to give it to the girl, when she say she is having "such in such" come sing LIVE...you better believe they will be singing LIVE. I caught it one night and Jeremih was on there doing his new single "Birthday Sex", and he didn't have a backup track to the first, it was almost like he was singing TOO LIVE, shower singing live, roadtrip singing live, your mama waking you up out your sleep to sing in front of company live ..lol I could go on and on! But anywho, maybe the show is so new, the don't have the money to get the right audio equipment... if thats the case, it totally showed.
All in all, its a pretty entertaining show, I don't recommend it being the last thing you watch before you get some shut eye, (unless you want to have a dream involving drag queens) but, if you want a good laugh its worth the watch!

Love, Peace, and Hairgrease! (Dudley)

~mIrRor MiRrOr~